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When people fear for the safety of a loved one they often tend to think that a little hurt from them will save much hurt for the object of their love. So they hurt others for their own good. When I was a child I remember this attitude from parents. It never felt good or right. Then I didn’t understand what the motivation for this behavior was. It was personified in the phrase, This is going to hurt me a lot more than it does you. The lie comes into play because we have no idea how much it’s going to hurt the other person. Later I learned the reasoning is based on the idea that we can develop others. Of course it’s madness, once we see the meaning of self-development, but until then it seems the only sane course of action. Our love, on this planet, is incomplete because we lack understanding of the unity of all life, understanding of ourselves, and therefore understanding of others. Sadly we don’t know this. We walk the earth proudly and with self-assurance, taking for granted that what we perceive is what is true. We develop an unconscious greed for supporters to bolster our psychological position. Buddha said, in his Metta Sutta:

To reach the state of peace, one skilled in the good
should be capable and upright.
Straightforward, easy to speak to, gentle and not proud
Contented and easily supported
Living lightly with few duties
Wise and with senses calmed
Not arrogant and without greed for supporters.

Our modern language might phrase it differently but the idea is the same whether we say greed for supporters or looking for agreement. The outcome is the same.

Many times I’ve said the truth cannot be taught, it must be caught. Often I’ve used the example of the truth being like a wild bird that flies into an open window and will light on your hand if you remain still and receptive. The moment you try to grasp it the bird flies back out the window. If we feel we must force our way on another human being to protect them, it’s like forcing the bird to remain. We lose the truth, we lose our integrity and we steal from another the opportunity to develop. We have diminished them by saying in a language stronger than words, You are not smart enough to develop without me. I know better than you. I am your savior and you must do as I say if you wish to be right, to be saved. The world supports this in many ways. We learn this from our parents and other authority figures throughout our lives. Someone is always standing ready to decide for us what is best for us, what we should do to be happy. Governments start out to protect the people they serve and end up enslaving the very people they were formed to protect and serve. As it is above so it is below. It nearly always turns out that what will make us happy is the thing we are telling the object of our love will make them happy. So, who’s happiness concerns us the most? Because we are blinded by the self-love we cannot see the truth and we spank the child saying, This is going to hurt me more than it hurts you.

To allow someone the free will with which they were endowed by their Creator may seem daunting when we love them, but understanding makes it much easier. The whole idea is really quite absurd. You cannot take away from a person what their creator has given them but you can persuade them to surrender it. That kind of manipulation is never called by its right name when we’re doing it. We only call it that when we find someone else doing it and we don’t agree. Society will not support you in setting free the people you love, but when you begin to understand what Real Love is your mind and method will change. Real Love and self-love cannot share the same space. If your heart is full of self-love you’ve left no room for Real Love and Real Love will not force its way in because it knows we must develop ourselves. It seems like a tremendous disadvantage to not fight for what you want but the alternative seems like it will never work so we resort to the violence of trying to convince the object of our love to surrender themselves to our superior wisdom. To allow someone to develop is slower and it hurts more but it is more responsible. None of the people who advise us are going to live our pain or happiness for us. We will have both pain and happiness no matter what happens. That’s the way it is here, under forty-eight orders of laws.

What is our fate and how may we know it? Is it chiseled in stone? Is it written somewhere beyond our reach so we can’t know it for certain? Is it impossible to please God without faith, as the esoteric writings say? Is there an Intelligence in the universe that will guide us, lead us, even if we are half blind? Does that guidance come from the self-proclaimed prophets who insist the only way for us to go is the way they see? Can we count on anything, anyone? I love according to all I know. Am I insane? Is love insane? Are war, hatred, control and domination the only sanity there is in this world? If they are then I’d rather be insane and suffer the fate of the hopelessly mad than walk in the ranks of those who live by the law of the jungle and say that might makes right or the mind only knows what is right, and that following the heart is sheer madness. I have followed my heart my whole life. I like my life and where my heart has led me. I look at those who would dissuade me from my course and I ask myself, “Do I want to be like them? Do I want to have the mind, the thoughts, the feelings, the things they have?” The answer is a resounding no! I would rather be true to my own heart than try to force myself into a mold that has been formed in violence and force by a society based on those negative emotions. Am I willing to pay the price of my rebellion against society? What is the price? To be cast out? To be disinherited? Ultimately this is not my home and these are not my people. I am a citizen of heaven. I have my eyes set beyond this world.

This path is not for everyone. Apparently it is for so few that it seems madness to the majority. The majority. The same people/machines who rain fire, poison and death down on the earth and it’s people to bend every living thing to their will. I do not resist them. I simply choose not to be one of them. I do not make them wrong or hate them. I do not fear them or judge them for they do not know what they are doing. How could they? We’re machines until we awaken enough to see what we have become.

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"No good deed goes unpunished."

The person most frequently credited as the originator of the phrase is playwright Clare Boothe Luce. Also credited have been playwright Noel Coward, writer Oscar Wilde, journalist Walter Winchell and the late Washington Post writer Bill Gold. The original idea is probably an ancient proverb.

Appearing cynical on the surface, a closer examination of human nature reveals the False Personality to be incredibly vengeful and petty due to its hubris.

Plato has Socrates say, "An unexamined life is not worth living." The reason no good deed goes unpunished is because most people are living lives not worth living. If you feel a sting, that probably means you are spending more time and energy examining the lives of others than you are examining your own.